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At last, I am reaching the age when a lot of people children closet I know are getting engaged. Because children closet many of them are friends children closet or acquaintances, I try and fail to reserve my judgment when it comes to a huge thing like marriage. I don t know their lives or relationships and take into account that my mindset may be different than theirs.
But I am not 25 (or older) and watching some friends children closet get married. I am 21. Since more than half of American marriages fail nowadays, it scares me to see others commit themselves when they may have 70 more years to live. What s the point of rushing? No matter how fair I attempt to be, I usually believe it s crazy to get married at this young age.
The idea of a perfect and long-lasting marriage, the one we all desire, isn t a reality anymore. According to The New York Times, more people are buying into the marriage contract (a fancy word for prenup) idea. The story reports that the average age for men to get married is 28.7 and for women it s 26.5. The Times asked whether people should get a 20-year contract or not, considering the abysmal divorce statistics.
It s pathetic to think that some might be willing to be married for only 20 years and then duck out like it never happened, with few consequences. Unless you are extremely wealthy and you married a gold-digger, then what s the need for a prenup? It s cheesy to quote til death do us part, but I m doing it anyway because that s the attitude I always expected people should have when they marry.
These harsh truths don t seem to affect some of my 800-something friends children closet on Facebook. I m seeing some engaged as young as 19. Sometimes children closet they marry right away and other times they wait a few years. Either way, I just don t understand the motivation to tie the knot right away.
I always thought I would marry when I was in my mid-to-late 20s. The idea of getting hitched now freaks children closet me out, but I m observing college students who are already married. Since I m a creep, I even check out people s left hands at times, and yes, if there s a ring on it, sometimes I judge.
Are people just ignoring divorce statistics? I personally never want to get divorced, except in cases like adultery, abuse or maybe just a complete emotional disconnect. Nowadays, people seem to get divorced after one little fight, and I can see that happening more frequently with 20-year-old newlyweds than with 30-year-olds.
I won t claim that every time college students marry, they will divorce because of something dumb. It could last forever. But it probably won t. I wonder how many rush into it because of pregnancy or outside influences, like family. I understand that some people have their religious beliefs dictating when it s appropriate to get married. In this modern day, though, the numbers children closet speak louder than scripture.
I sound like a jerk making children closet assumptions about everyone, but it disappoints me to see my peers marry young and then divorce some time later. Does everyone children closet really go in with the attitude that they re happy now and, if they aren t later, they can get divorced without serious attempts to reconcile? children closet What happened to working out problems?
As The New York Times article indicated, many Americans aren t interested in that anymore. It seems like a lot of us are OK with waiting for a contract to expire. I m not some sappy romantic who believes true love lasts forever and that all problems are surmountable. I just think the idea of contracts violates what marriage is really all about. children closet Marrying young and getting divorced later is what makes some think prenups are a good idea.
I am sure many meet their soulmate, or at least someone compatible, in college. Why jump into something that s supposed to be permanent so early in life? At least take the time to consider being with that significant other several more decades. If you can, great. I m happy for you. If not, then delay hiring the wedding planner for a while. It s worth it and it makes sense to wait.
Gianna Cruet studies journalism and Spanish. She can be reached at gcruet@nevadasagebrush.com . Related Posts: Married in college: Students find hardship in matrimony Aim to obtain new kinds of relationships Opinion: In need of advice on all things sex? Look no further Failed new year’s resolution leads to revelation: I’m not boyfriend material Opinion: Lay every astrological sign until you find your match
Latest children closet Comments Cynthia : residual income.... the gift that keeps on giving... A
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At last, I am reaching the age when a lot of people children closet I know are getting engaged. Because children closet many of them are friends children closet or acquaintances, I try and fail to reserve my judgment when it comes to a huge thing like marriage. I don t know their lives or relationships and take into account that my mindset may be different than theirs.
But I am not 25 (or older) and watching some friends children closet get married. I am 21. Since more than half of American marriages fail nowadays, it scares me to see others commit themselves when they may have 70 more years to live. What s the point of rushing? No matter how fair I attempt to be, I usually believe it s crazy to get married at this young age.
The idea of a perfect and long-lasting marriage, the one we all desire, isn t a reality anymore. According to The New York Times, more people are buying into the marriage contract (a fancy word for prenup) idea. The story reports that the average age for men to get married is 28.7 and for women it s 26.5. The Times asked whether people should get a 20-year contract or not, considering the abysmal divorce statistics.
It s pathetic to think that some might be willing to be married for only 20 years and then duck out like it never happened, with few consequences. Unless you are extremely wealthy and you married a gold-digger, then what s the need for a prenup? It s cheesy to quote til death do us part, but I m doing it anyway because that s the attitude I always expected people should have when they marry.
These harsh truths don t seem to affect some of my 800-something friends children closet on Facebook. I m seeing some engaged as young as 19. Sometimes children closet they marry right away and other times they wait a few years. Either way, I just don t understand the motivation to tie the knot right away.
I always thought I would marry when I was in my mid-to-late 20s. The idea of getting hitched now freaks children closet me out, but I m observing college students who are already married. Since I m a creep, I even check out people s left hands at times, and yes, if there s a ring on it, sometimes I judge.
Are people just ignoring divorce statistics? I personally never want to get divorced, except in cases like adultery, abuse or maybe just a complete emotional disconnect. Nowadays, people seem to get divorced after one little fight, and I can see that happening more frequently with 20-year-old newlyweds than with 30-year-olds.
I won t claim that every time college students marry, they will divorce because of something dumb. It could last forever. But it probably won t. I wonder how many rush into it because of pregnancy or outside influences, like family. I understand that some people have their religious beliefs dictating when it s appropriate to get married. In this modern day, though, the numbers children closet speak louder than scripture.
I sound like a jerk making children closet assumptions about everyone, but it disappoints me to see my peers marry young and then divorce some time later. Does everyone children closet really go in with the attitude that they re happy now and, if they aren t later, they can get divorced without serious attempts to reconcile? children closet What happened to working out problems?
As The New York Times article indicated, many Americans aren t interested in that anymore. It seems like a lot of us are OK with waiting for a contract to expire. I m not some sappy romantic who believes true love lasts forever and that all problems are surmountable. I just think the idea of contracts violates what marriage is really all about. children closet Marrying young and getting divorced later is what makes some think prenups are a good idea.
I am sure many meet their soulmate, or at least someone compatible, in college. Why jump into something that s supposed to be permanent so early in life? At least take the time to consider being with that significant other several more decades. If you can, great. I m happy for you. If not, then delay hiring the wedding planner for a while. It s worth it and it makes sense to wait.
Gianna Cruet studies journalism and Spanish. She can be reached at gcruet@nevadasagebrush.com . Related Posts: Married in college: Students find hardship in matrimony Aim to obtain new kinds of relationships Opinion: In need of advice on all things sex? Look no further Failed new year’s resolution leads to revelation: I’m not boyfriend material Opinion: Lay every astrological sign until you find your match
Latest children closet Comments Cynthia : residual income.... the gift that keeps on giving... A
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